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Anguilla 2011 ~ 3 of 3

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…Most of all, there was the time spent. The time spent together in Anguilla.

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Long walks on the beach. (below: Kyle and MorFar)

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Fun in the sun. (below, probably my favorite 3 photos of the whole trip: MorMor and Meera)

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Good times with Sadie, the bambinos’ only precious cousin!

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Undivided attention from (and for!) Mama and Papi!

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Twin brothers playing under palm trees. Lost in the luxury of a new place.

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There is something really extraordinarily good about getting far, far away, together.

There was time for solitude too. But the best kind of solitude— solitude within real close proximity of the people you love best, and the people who love you best.

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We were privileged to have had this trip. We appreciated every minute of it. And before we knew it, it was time to go. Our last night in Anguilla we drank our last pina coladas while we watched our last sunset and we did ‘cheers!’ for the last time before we would head home.

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The next day we boarded the ferry from Anguilla to St. Martin.

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Before heading to the airport we spent just enough time in St. Martin to buy a few little things to remember our trip by. But the truth is, the trip is lodged deep in our memories. No souvenirs needed. People say that big trips like this are “wasted” on young kids; ‘They won’t even remember it!’; ‘They can’t truly appreciate it!’. That is so wrong. It is a privilege, a luxury, and an incredible opportunity for kids to be able to travel like this. It shapes them and lives within them. Their exposure to the world, and their direct experience with it, contributes significantly to their worldview. That is no small thing. It is totally, totally worth it.

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Anguilla 2011. A dream come true.

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A dream somewhere between the real and the unreal. Like a half-open window of a ferry boat just leaving the dock, with the most jaw-dropping views, hues, breezes, and memories to last a life-time.

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Maybe someday we will all go back. That sure would be great. But if we don’t, that’s o.k. too, because we were all in Anguilla on vacation together for a week in March 2011. We’ll always have that gift. Life is fleeting and far too precious to squander.

Adoption Day Weekend in Baltimore

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We can completely understand why they call it “Charm City.” Baltimore charms us every time! There is no city that we love more than Baltimore for a weekend family getaway. And so, when talking over what we should do to celebrate our family’s 6th Adoption Day, it was no surprise when K & O pushed hard for Baltimore. And this year, for the first time, we (mainly K & O), decided that Meera was old enough to join us for the Adoption Day Celebration (for the past two years MorMor has graciously taken care of Meera for a day so that the Original Four J-Ms could do NYC daytrips). And so, this past weekend, the three J-M bambinos and their parents went to Baltimore to celebrate our 6th Adoption Day! It brought back a lot of great memories for Braydon and I because exactly five years ago we celebrated our 1st Adoption Day with a weekend in Baltimore (Kyle and Owen were 18 months old at the time).

Two truths about City-Travel-with-Young-Kids should be noted here:

1) Truth #1: It is tough stuff to travel anywhere with three kids, and cities are especially tough (especially for families who don’t permanently reside in a city and aren’t completely accustomed to hanging out in one). Anyone who has ever done city travel with kids knows this. Even though we pretty much consider ourselves Masters-of-Traveling-with-Young-Kids at this point (no doubt we’ve figured out all the tricks in the book), and even though our kids are great travelers, it is still never easy, and it is still always exhausting. Nonetheless, it is a real break from our daily grind (which we totally appreciate), and in all honesty, we truly find it fun to spend time together as a family in this way (I know, I know, lots of people think we’re crazy for this, but really we do find it honest-to-goodness-fun). We set our expectations real low (that’s the most important key right there), we build in lots of down time (second most important key), we make sure that the place at which we’re staying has a pool (third most important key), and we only do road trips with our portable DVD player in the car (fourth most important key *see p.s. at end of post*). We do all that and then we come out on the other side feeling like it was a MAJOR smooth-and-shining-success as long as there are no major crises or catastrophes.

2) Truth #2: Much more than half the fun of City-Travel-with-Young-Kids  is simply the city slicker stuff that our three country bumpkins don’t normally get to do. Oh, the big city! Oh, the fun of it all! And the biggest thing that we’ve learned through our travelling with kids is this: the only way to truly enjoy a trip with little ones is to plan to allow the amplest of time for the simplest of pleasures. Because…

Really… there is much enjoyment to be found in escalators! (and so much enjoyment to be found in watching them on them!)…

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…and in elevators! (and in watching them on them!)…

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…and in – the crème de la crème of big city excitement – revolving doors!

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Oh the fun we had! Here are the three in the hotel room on Saturday morning, before heading out for the day:

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We spent a big chunk of our day Saturday at The Maryland Science Center. We had been there before with K & O. The place is amazing. It is like a Children’s Museum, only even better because it is a real Science Museum. All three bambinos absolutely loved it, and could have spent days there.

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And then we had the treat of seeing the Imax film Michael Jordan to the Max. I had known about this film, and had bought tickets for it in advance, knowing that K & O would love it. It was awesome, and lived up to all of my expectations. The boys loved it. A real highlight of the weekend for us all.

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Another major highlight of the weekend: feeding seagulls at the Inner Harbor. (K & O have a history with feeding seagulls, which started three years ago during a trip to Sand Key, Florida.) They called this “The Seagull Adoption Day Party” and oh what a party it was!

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Back at the hotel, we had our own party too. With take-out cheesecake (K & O’s favorite dessert) from The Cheesecake Factory.

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This is the view we had from our hotel windows while we were eating our cheesecake. Doesn’t get much better than that!

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And then there was the pool!

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And the chance to ride a “Jumbo Bus!” (a huge thrill for all three bambinos).

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And the Water Taxi (mega thrill) — (and mega cold too… Baltimore Water Taxi. In January. At dusk. But it had to be done.)

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And there was the never-ever-gets-old Throwing-Of-Things-Into-The-Water. In this case it was chunks of snow and ice into the frosty harbor. It doesn’t matter, they love it.

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And, in and amongst all the other moments (good, bad, stellar, and not-so-stellar moments), there were some sweet moments that are really the glue that hold it all together and make it all worth it. At one point, just in the midst of everything, I spotted Owen and Meera holding hands looking out together at the harbor, not speaking just smiling. I happened to be able to snap a photo of it, but of course the photo doesn’t do it justice. In the cold January city, there they were in this tender moment. It is stuff like this that makes my heart explode. This is the stuff that makes all the energy that I pour into these sorts of things (the planning, prepping, packing, pure-exhaustion that is a necessary part of the way I am parenting) worth it. Worth every bit of it. I saw this sight and thought, “Yes, that’s right, Happy Adoption Day!”

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Don’t get me wrong, moments like this were nice too:

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Because it is also really nice when they are all sound asleep in hotel beds (! ha!), and Braydon and I are in the other room of the suite, eating the kind of take-out we can’t easily get at home, and drinking wine, and talking with devotion to nothing but the moment together. That, alone, honestly, would have been worth the trip to Charm City.

But who am I kidding? Even just watching our three crazy kids walking-skipping-running-dancing the city streets would have been worth the trip to Charm City. A great time was had by all.

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It was a Happy Adoption Day Celebration for us five. As it should be.

On Sunday morning, as we were walking through the hotel to go to the pool for one last swim, we passed a group of people walking the other way in the lobby. K, O, and M were all skipping along, smiling hugely, excited to go swimming, and chattering away to everyone they saw, as usual. (I’m the first to admit, they are ridiculously chipper and friendly.) As we passed the group in the lobby our three all said stuff like “Good Morning!” and “Have a great day!” and “We’re going swimming!” Etc. They all responded with smiles and nice replies. And as we walked past them (this whole interaction lasted just a brief second), I heard one of them say to the others: “That was the happy family that we saw yesterday.” It really struck me. It was a brief glimpse into how we were being perceived there. Not “The Adoptive Family,” or “The Multi-Racial Family,” or “The Weird Family.” But “The Happy Family.” It was a really great moment for me. As the Matriarch of this little “Happy Family” it made me proud.

Oh, and seriously?!… I don’t think it is possible that there are two happier boys on the entire planet than these two. I’m not kidding. I mean, Meera is happy too. Ridiculously so. But Kyle and Owen? Seriously, the happiest boys ever. This weekend I was once again reminded that my sons are not the easiest, not the calmest, not the smoothest-around-the-edges, no. But happiest? Yes. They have got to be the happiest kids on earth. And that kind of happy can’t help but rub off. And I’ll take that over all the other stuff any day of the week.

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Happy Adoption Day K & O!

P.S. Random side-note: Loyal readers may remember that a year ago, for our 5th Adoption Day, we took K & O to see The Lion King on Broadway. You may also remember that they then became obsessed with The Lion King. And that Meera too became obsessed with The Lion King (even though she had absolutely no clue whatsoever what it was). She was even the Lion King (or “Li Li Ti” as she called it) for Halloween. This obsession on the part of all three bambinos has lasted the entire year. I don’t think a day has gone by that we haven’t heard or seen something from the three of them in regards to The Lion King. Well, we held out for entire year… and for the road trip to Baltimore we gave them none other than… the Disney Lion King movie on DVD. It has sparked a revival of newfound interest in The Lion King and they’ve watched it every day since. Long live The Lion King!

J-M Holidays 2010: Epilogue

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O.k., so I know we’ve posted a ridiculous amount re: our holidays. (I know it has been a little over the top for a blog, but please just try to keep in mind that this is our only scrapbook.) Anyway, it is over, I promise, after this. But I just have to get in this series of photos because it is just so laden with meaning and I don’t want to forget this. “Bringing in the wood” was a major part of my own childhood. MorMor and MorFar heat their house with wood, and always have (not as in a cute fire in the fireplace every once in a while on a snowy Sunday afternoon, but as in: wood heat is their primary – and really only – source of heat). They were heating with wood long before being “green” was cool and hip. This isn’t a “thing” for them, it is the real deal. And it is a huge amount of work (cutting/chopping/stacking the wood, bringing the wood into the house every day, keeping the fire going, etc., etc., etc.). Growing up, I absolutely hated the daily chore of “bringing in the wood.” As a teenager I vowed to myself that no matter what I’d never heat with wood. And to this day, while I love a nice fire in our fireplace every once in a while (as in a few times a year), and I love any camp-ish-like fire (as in s’mores), I really have no love lost for true-blue-wood-heat (and man do I love our central heating and cooling; not a day goes by that I’m not grateful for it—seriously)… I am especially glad to have the grind of “bringing in the wood” behind me. Kyle and Owen, on the other hand, love “bringing in the wood.” Whenever we go to my parents house in the winter, the boys love (love love!) helping MorFar with the wood (they love helping MorFar with anything, it just so happens that “bringing in the wood” is something that they get to do –yay for them!— every day!). This year they were actually truly helpful with it—they’re now old enough and strong enough that the two of them alone could easily get all the wood in every day. This is huge (it is huge for K & O, it is hugely helpful for my parents, and it is hugely crazy for me to watch). Also huge was that this year K & O were all about teaching Meera about “bringing in the wood” too. She was all over it (she’ll jump at any chance to follow in the footsteps of K & O… scary, scary thought). And so, I just have to post this little series of pictures – totally unedited and raw – because they really tell a story. A story that is meaningful on a lot of different levels.

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And last, but not least, I have to just post the photo that we sent out as our holiday card this year. Just because it is so dang cute and I don’t want to ever forget the JOY (and yes, stress and frazzle and exhaustion too… but mostly just pure and unaltered JOY) that was parenting during the years that our kids were young. This is it my friends. This is as good as it gets. And it is good.

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O.k., now I’m totally caught up. Next up, starting tomorrow, it will be back to non-holiday blogging (phew!)

J-M Family Christmas 2010, Part 3 of 3

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Part 3: Christmas at MorMor and MorFar’s

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Our last day of school/work was Friday, December 17. That entire week was absolutely over-the-edge with Braydon working round-the-clock on a big project, me trying to wrap up the fall semester & plan/pack/prepare for a major trip for a family of five & do everything Christmas (i.e., presents for everyone near and far, etc., etc., etc.). The three bambinos were bouncing off the walls in anticipation of all-that-is-Christmas. It was not pretty and I am not ashamed to admit that I melted down with ugly crying fits on more than one occasion (including, for example, the cop incident). It was hard to imagine I’d be feeling any “Joy to the World,” but – as I do every Christmas – I took the leap of faith that the ten hour drive up north would put some distance between me and my pain-and-suffering and it would be all worth it. We hit the road very early Saturday morning with our car jam-packed-crammed floor-to-ceiling and Braydon and I running on less than a few hours of sleep. While the bambinos watched The Polar Express and ate donuts in the backseat, Mommy and Papi drank coffee and tried to deconstruct the fast-paced-blur of the past month of our lives.

We headed first for Massachusetts where we had a lunch and Christmastime visit with Braydon’s mom/Gamma, Aunt Diana, and Uncle Guy. It was good to connect and spend time with them. From there we got back on the road and zipped it straight to Portland, Maine for our Christmas kick-off treat to ourselves: a night at a splendid hotel with an indoor pool and scrumptious room service. Honestly, it was just what we J-Ms needed to re-orient and put us in the right frame of mind.

Sunday the 19th the family festivities began when we all met up for what has become our traditional lunch in Portland at Gilbert’s Chowder House. Cheers all around!

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And then we were all off to Portland’s Symphony Hall for one of our steadfast traditions: the Magic of Christmas Concert by the Portland Symphony Orchestra. And get this: This year was our THIRTIETH YEAR of going to this concert! 30th. Seriously!

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After the concert we J-M’s headed to MorMor and MorFar’s house. Where we found… Christmas at MorMor and MorFar’s. We were disappointed that there was no snow on the ground, but there is still something totally magical about Christmastime at MorMor and MorFar’s house –inside and out— snow, or no snow.

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MorMor made seven different kinds of Christmas Cookies this year. Each a unique and time-consuming craft unto itself. And it didn’t take long for everyone to claim their favorites… including Meera, who this year was all about the Spritz. She quickly learned where to find the cookie tins, which tins contained Spritz, and how to carry them to MorMor to open for her. Really, I have to say it: so darn cute!!!

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Braydon went home for Monday-Tuesday for work commitments. Truly, that was a big “low” for us (Braydon having to go). But we spent those days settling in, skating, letting MorMor and MorFar spoil us, and (me) catching up on sleep. It turned out that there was actually something really nice about having a couple of days to just sort of be, to chill, to unwind before the real wind-up to Christmas began. Once Braydon came back the ball really got rolling with our trip to Bretton Woods, and then the arrival of Auntie Stina, Sadie, and Mark.

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After a day of skiing at King Pine on Thursday, we had a private concert/workshop with a master didgeridoo player! It was very interesting. Turns out that K & O are pretty good at playing the didgeridoo. I couldn’t make a sound come out of it to save my life. Anyway… totally random, and totally fun, and totally set up by my parents (something only they would do— the masters of “mandatory fun”).

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Christmas Eve Day brought the traditional hot dog and marshmallow roast. This has become such a part of our Christmas.

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Then late that afternoon, the Letter To Santa (to be left for him later that night with the milk and cookies).

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And then it was everyone-get-dressed-for-church and pose-by-the-Christmas-tree. Some traditions we just follow, even though none of us enjoy them. But I was determined to get a photo for my parents— it seems like the least we can do!— and so I once again made the kids do it despite their at-times active resistance. (You should see the 50-or-so outtakes it took to get this one photo!)

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Then the centerpiece of Christmas Eve (and of Christmas, really): the Swedish Smorgasbord. MorMor spends weeks preparing this spread. It is unbelievable to me, really. I simply cannot imagine myself ever (ever!) being capable of pulling this off (although, frankly, if it wins over whatever future sons-in-laws I may have, perhaps I might will myself to do it – check out the way Braydon is loving on my mother in the photo below!). But she does it, and by doing it she passes something really meaningful about our heritage to the next generation. And it does not matter to her one bit that two of her four grandchildren have no Swedish blood whatsoever. (And it doesn’t seem to matter to them either—they eat smorgasbord like the good little grandsons of a Swedish MorMor that they are.) It was a true thrill to MorMor that this year Owen loved the sill (pickled herring) made by family friends. He even pushed away a plate of cake to eat sill instead. And called the family who had made it to pay his compliments. Totally interesting SIDENOTE to anyone who might be reading who is deeply ethnically Swedish with black adopted kids in their family (are there any such people other than us???): the sill that Owen loved came from a sill recipe from Marcus Samuelsson! I have now become completely fascinated with Marcus Samuelsson and his entire life story… but that is another story. Back to Christmas—

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I just had to put this photo in here because I absolutely love it and I think it might be one of my top ten favorites of all time. Kyle reading the Christmas Story to Meera on Christmas Eve before heading to church:

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Christmas Eve Service at The Freedom Church. Tradition, for us, with a capital “T.” Longtime blog readers will remember that K & O have been angels in the pageant ever since the year they were two. Despite the fact that all of the other boys are shepherds and sheep, K & O still choose to be angels (a gender-bending fact that I’m pretty proud of, actually). Meera, of course, just wants to be what K & O are going to be, so she’s an angel too. This year there we no outrageously hilarious incidents, which really says something about how far we’ve come and how much our boys are mellowing out. And so, without the crazy-funny stuff to laugh at, I was left with the space to really notice everything else that was going on right around me.

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And there we were, on Christmas Eve, in the church I’ve always gone to on that night, with my three children around me, in the same exact costumes that I wore on Christmas Eve when I was their age. And suddenly, it was all clear to me: it is all worth it. And in that precise silent moment of that awesome realization and revelation, there was my husband kneeling down with our camera pointed right at me. And I knew, more than ever, that it is all good. Because how else could you explain that my soul-mate would have suddenly been moved to snap that shot right then and there? I won’t go on and on about it, I’ll just say that this photo (below) says a thousand words:

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And this one says just shy of a thousand:

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And so, with Christmas Eve contentment, we headed back to MorMor and MorFar’s for the annual reading of The Night Before Christmas.

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Christmas morning was, as it is in the best of times, a flurry of that special only-once-per-year-kind-of-excitement. The sun barely coming up, the kids bursting at the seems, and the house overflowing.

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There was something extra special about Meera this year. A two year old on Christmas morning is a precious thing.

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You should have seen the looks on her face as she saw herself in the mirror with her “Tiana dress and Tiana doll FROM SANTA!” Here is just one of them:

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Dreams do come true! Santa also left letters for K & O telling them that a drum-set and bow-and-arrow were waiting for them at home (photos taken after we got home).

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And other dreams come true too!… Owen had been waiting for MorMor’s Christmas Morning Swedish Butterhorns all year long. He has no problem taking a break amidst present-opening for the butterhorns to be made (this year my mother made a total of three batches, and made a note to herself to make four batches next year… she confessed to me that in her Christmas cooking/baking this year she had used over 11 pounds of butter and at least 5 dozen eggs and she has no idea how she’ll manage it when the boys are sixteen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).

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Christmas Day and the day after brought some serious fun and relaxation. (Big “high”: the boys’ present from MorMor and MorFar this year was a foosball table!) With all the wind-up over, it was all wind-down, which is all good.

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And we did not complain when we had to stay an extra day because a blizzard hit. We drank a few more of MorFar’s incredible pomegranate martinis, and were just so thankful to have a belated White Christmas!

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An extra day to play…

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The chance to help with snow removal (major “high” for the boys—all three of them!)…

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And the perfect ending to a truly God Jul.

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We headed home on Tuesday, with a sweet stop in Worcester on the way to visit Grandpa Les. 

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Our trip was 11 days long. That’s a long time away from home for a family with young kids. There are highs and lows all mixed up together, but the highs way outweigh the lows. And so, we left MorMor and MorFar’s house/New Hampshire/New England (for some reason, for us, passing over the Tappan Zee bridge is always a symbolic reminder that we live in a whole other part of the world) knowing that –as long as we’re lucky enough to be able to— we’ll do it all again next year. And it will all – somehow, someway – be worth it. (A big huge thank you to MorMor and MorFar!)

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J-M Family Christmas 2010, Part 1 of 3

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This is a story. Not The Christmas Story, but our Christmas Story. We are blessed beyond belief that this continues to be a Christmas story that centers on two very happy boys and a very happy girl. It is a story of traditions passed down, and traditions in the making. It is a story of love, and fun, and learning. It is a story that has been told and re-told, and it is a story in the making. It is a story worth documenting, or, at least, trying to document in bits and pieces. And so I try to capture the essence of it as best I can. Knowing that it is just a small fraction, from just my own perspective, but knowing too that it is real.

The J-M Family Christmas has come to be a story in two parts. In large part, our Christmas is a trip— a trip to New Hampshire; a trip to MorMor and MorFar’s house; a trip to the Northern New England where Mommy grew up. As opposed to our New Hampshire summer trip of waterskiing and boating, this New Hampshire Christmastime trip is filled with snow and ice and skis and skates, pink cheeks and frosty mountain air. It is also a story of our Christmas— the things we do; the traditions we revere; the Swedish God Jul being handed down; the creation, and celebration, of an important holiday that anchors our year. This part of the story is of the deep history on the Johnson side of the family, of 2nd-generation-angels in pageants at the Freedom Church on Christmas eve, of wide-eyed-believing and wishes-come-true on Christmas morning, of Swedish sill and Swedish meatballs and Swedish butterhorns. Both parts of the story are, entwined together, what has become our J-M Family Christmas.

It is not all peaches and roses. It is not all snowy-white-wreaths and ear-to-ear frosty-breath smiles either. But the good parts are what our camera captures. Because that is what we purposefully focus our lens on. It doesn’t mean we don’t see the parts of the landscape that aren’t so gorgeous. We do. But we turn ourselves, whenever possible, to that glorious white-capped mountain view instead. And we put our hands on our kids’ shoulders and gently turn them in that direction too. Because with only one life to live, with only one Christmas when our kids are six and two, why on earth would we do anything else? And so, the J-M Family Christmas Story gets told in a particular fashion: admittedly, in a way that downplays the 2-year-old’s tantrums and the 6-year-old who pushed me to tears with his relentless pushing-of-all-boundaries, and the gory details of how the other 6-year-old threw up in MorMor’s toilet on the day before Christmas Eve. I could write about all that, but I don’t. I could also write about 100 blog posts on how much work it takes, on my part, to pull off this trip; on how Braydon and I fight each year over the imbalance in the workload; on the dysfunctional and sometimes ridiculously dramatic family dynamics that crop up each year around the holidays. Yes, I could write all that. But I don’t. Because at the end of the day, I am fortunate to say, for us the good far outweighs the bad. The story is, ultimately, a good and happy story. The life we’re living out is way too awesome to downplay. And so, we capture the good stuff and let the rest sift out. Because that is how we choose to live year-round, and Christmastime is no different.

For us J-Ms, the glass is half full. And when you’re at MorMor and MorFar’s house at Christmastime, your glass is always at least half full – literally and figuratively. There seemed to be an endless flow of eggnog and glogg and Pellegrino and pomegranate martinis this year. And that is something to celebrate!

And so, this is our 2010 Christmas Story in three parts— Part 1: The High of our Trip— Part 2: Snow and Ice and Other Things Nice (That’s What Our Winter Trip to New Hampshire is Made of)— Part 3: Christmas at MorMor and MorFar’s.

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J-M Family Christmas, Part 1: The High of our Trip

Kyle and Owen learned to ski the Christmas that they were three years old. That made this year their fourth year skiing. It is their favorite part of our Christmas. They rank Christmastime skiing above all other aspects of Christmas, including presents, Santa, and everything else. We’ve always gone to King Pine each year (it is only five minutes down the road from my parents’ house, and perfect for little kids/families), but this year we decided to take it up a notch (a few notches actually!), and take the boys to Bretton Woods. This is (we truly believe), the crème de le crème of New England skiing. My parents graciously took Meera for a day so that the four of us could devote an entire day to skiing untied-down. We savored every single second and it turned out to be the “high” of the entire Christmas for every single one of us. Bretton Woods is a 90 minute drive north of my parents’ house. We got up early and hit the road. The drive, alone, would have been worth the trip. Seriously. It has to be one of the most scenic drives imaginable. And the skiing was unbelievable. A couple feet of base, and fresh powder everywhere. We even ate a fabulous lunch in the mountain-top restaurant (the boys got such a kick out of eating in a restaurant that you can only get to on skis and by chairlift!). And the exquisite beauty of it all~~~ Everywhere you turned it looked like a dream. It felt like we were skiing a fairy tale. It couldn’t possibly have been any better. (And, bonus!, there were no broken bones this year!!!) At the end of the day we met up with MorMor, MorFar, and Meera for dinner at Red Parka Pub (an old family favorite) on our way home. We got there to find a beaming Meera who had very much enjoyed her day of one-on-one time with MorMor and MorFar. It was really a highlight-of-our-year-day for all of the J-Ms. Both Braydon and I agreed it was each of our top skiing day ever (like, ever! individually, in each of our lives!). And for the boys it opened the door to a whole new chapter of skiing. A chapter that they wish they could read over and over and over again. And so, our day at Bretton Woods (although we only had our cell phone cameras with us) deserves a little set of photos unto itself:

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J-M Family Christmas 2010, Part 2 of 3

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Part 2: Snow and Ice and Other Things Nice (That’s What Our Winter Trip to New Hampshire is Made of)

There is nothing like skating on a frozen lake. As far as skating goes, nothing could top that… except maybe skating on a frozen lake without another human being (or even a human dwelling!) in sight… which is what we got to do this Christmas. We lucked out again this year with smooth frozen lakes perfect for skating. Braydon had to fly home for work for two days early on in our stay, but us other four J-Ms skated away the time he was gone. This year MorMor and MorFar brought us to White Lake for skating. The photos don’t even do it justice. And this year I finally bought “new” (used) skates for everyone (minus Meera) at a great sports equipment consignment shop (where –thrill of all thrills!— I also bought hockey sticks and pucks for the boys!!!). And this year Meera was loving being pulled on the ice in my parents’ antique sled (Swedish rosmaling pained by my mother’s mother!).

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A new twist this year was that almost every day Kyle and Owen (and Braydon on two of the days too) went for an early morning winter hike with MorFar. One day they did a two hour hike through the woods to an isolated pond behind my parents’ house; another day they went and did the long walking trail to Sunset Beach; another day they hiked Jackman’s Ridge. For their final day of hiking Sadie and Mark joined them and they all did the Outer Limits Trail at Calumet. They’d come home to a big warm breakfast in MorMor’s kitchen. Sometimes it is so striking to me that my two Haitian-born sons are up in New England doing these things in the icy cold— these photos hit me that way.

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In addition to our day at Bretton Woods, MorMor and MorFar treated us all to a day of skiing at King Pine. Stina, Mark, Sadie, and MorMor hit the slopes with the four of us over-the-age-of-two J-Ms. Next year Meera will learn to ski. But this year Meera hung in the lodge with MorFar (who was recovering from carpel tunnel surgery, so unable to ski himself). She and MorFar were clearly having a great time when we visited with them for our ski breaks over hot chocolate. The rest of us had so much fun on the slopes! By the end we were all high-tailing it down and going one-by-one over a jump near the base. Kyle and Owen are practically fearless on skis, they love every minute of it, and they never complain for even second (even when they have massive wipe-outs or are about to get frostbite). Skiing with your extended family, with multiple generations, is special. And it runs in my family—my grandfather used to ski with us when I was a kid. Braydon and I wonder if (and hope that) we’ll be skiing with our own grandchildren someday.

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Tubing! This was our Fourth Annual Day-After-Christmas Tubing Extravaganza at King Pine’s Tubing Park. Tubing is super fun! Especially when you’ve got three generations tubing together! The rest of us would probably be fine with about an hour, but Kyle and Owen wouldn’t waste a minute of their ticket’s precious two hour allotment. And so, we all stick it out (not hard to do) for the full two hours of tubing (because who wants to be the wimp?!) and we pretty much laugh and scream the entire time. This year Meera got to join in for the first time – a huge deal for her (finally! after watching everyone skate and ski— something that she got to do too!). She was crazy happy and totally her brothers’ sister on the tubing hill (i.e., waaaay into it!). When all was said and done and we were home with the whole trip behind us, Meera said that tubing was her “favorite” part of Christmas, and we are all sure that it was.

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A gift my parents give us each year is that their outdoor hot tub is running at the perfect temperature day-and-night, ready for anyone who wants to take a dip at any time. And dips we do take. The outdoor thermometer reads 20 degrees, the hot tub thermometer reads 103, and all is good! The best is sitting in the steaming hot tub in the pitch dark with snow falling. The last two nights of our trip was a winter wonderland of blustery blizzard – which made for some extremely fun and memorable J-M family hot tub times. Have you ever sat in a hot tub with snow falling? If not, put it on your bucket list! Have you ever watched your kids jumping out of a hot tub, rolling in the snow, and diving back in? If not, put it right at the top of your bucket list! There is nothing like watching your kids playing in a snowstorm in their bathing suits!

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Good, good times! A Christmas Trip to remember!

The Bambinos In Boston

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Sat am at hotel ready to start the day

This is my favorite picture from this past weekend – of the three in Boston – taken on Saturday morning. These bambinos love to go, go, go and on that morning they were excited for the latest adventure. We try to resist the urge to ask them to pose for photos too often. But it is necessary every once in a while. And so worth it to capture a moment like this one.

Boston, fall 2010

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Heather and I lived in Boston for 6 years while in graduate school, and although we’ve now lived in the Mid-Atlantic for the last 10 years, Boston is near and dear to us in many ways.

We spent many a day and night going to our favorite restaurants, spending time with friends, going to events, museums, movies, site seeing and enjoying life. Now, don’t get me wrong, working on Doctorate degrees is not what you call a walk in the park, so I don’t want to romanticize it too much at the risk of forgetting how rough it was, but we also did do quite a bit of walking in the park (Franklin park mostly). In some ways, it really was romantic (seriously – Locontes), but we also missed a lot of our 20’s with heads down in books.

But, with that experience, we knew we’d have fun when my mother invited us to come up for the weekend and go to the science museum with the kids. I’ll skip over the car 5.5 hour car ride with 3 small children up and back, but to say our kids are really really good travelers, and thank goodness for in-car DVD players. Walt Disney – you’re my hero.

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After getting a bit lost down Storrow Drive, and seeing Mt. Vernon street, where the ducks from Make Way for Ducklings (we love that book) waddled up to the public garden, and then twisting our way through the Back Bay, and down to MGH, behind Beacon Hill, back over to MIT, and finally, accidentally, and miraculously, we arrived at the Boston Science museum.

All three kids loved the science museum.  Some key highlights:

1. The Archemedean Excogitation (the amazing rolling ball sculpture)


2. Making windmills to test wind power

3. the IMAX movie “Whales

4. The lightning show (which apparently was reported back to their class in full on how to not get struck by lighting.  Wish I had been a fly on that wall).

It’s a full day going to the Science Museum….

We also had a chance to hang out with G’mma at her place and enjoy the playground.  And Owen enjoyed more than several chocolate chip cookies and all the kids loved playing with the search and find books, and reading books and puzzles.

I tell you what though – our soft Mid-Atlantic selves suffered in the cold.  Yes, it was only 45 degrees, but wow – cold in New England is different than other places.  You forget – even though we get up there for Christmas.  And G’mma’s/Auntie Sabrina’s poor Chihuahua not sure about how that little dog survives…, but somehow, our kids just keep on keeping on having fun wherever they find a nice playground – and this one is a nice one.

We left on Sunday morning – checked out of the Staybridge suites.

Thought we might dip in to Boston on the way to see our old apartment….Kyle nixed that – it was a short, good trip and everyone was ready to head home.  Stopped at one of our favorites – Chipotle and had good burritos.  Nice way to end a nice visit.

Travel: A Love Story – The J-Ms do Walt Disney World, Part 1 of 3

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Oh yes, yes, yes, we love to travel. Every trip – whether a quick day trip or an international trip-of-a-lifetime – is a love story for us. There is, for each strong family, some glue that holds that family together. We J-Ms have a few kinds of glue— trips and travels being one of the strongest. We have yet to not come home from a trip re-bonded. This latest one is no different. It is a story that begins long before the car engine starts or the flight takes off. It is an on-going story, playing out daily, before-during-and-long-after. It is the telling and re-telling of stories from trips past. It is the memories of sweet adventures and the imagining of adventures to come. It is the remembrances cemented in our minds and hearts. It is the potential for all that future trips might hold.

The bambinos, like most privileged American children, have many toys at home. But the one thing that is played with day after day and year after year (loyal blog readers know this), is the airplanes. We have quite a collection. And the airplanes are more active than ever in the days leading up to a trip. While the J-M children knew we were going to “Walt Disney World,” they had no real idea of what that place actually was. But nonetheless, the excitement was building, and the planes were lining up on the runway far in advance of our actual departure.

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Anyone who has ever traveled at all knows that there is a lot of planning and prepping and packing to do for a family of five going anywhere. We use the same basic strategy trip upon trip. We’ve mastered it, and it works for us. But it is still a lot. And we (mainly, me) always wonder – in the 11th hour – if it is all worth it. But it always is.

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Every bit is an adventure beloved. The early morning wake-ups in the pitch dark, to catch our flight on time; the airport routine and all that it entails (think: airport security, with three young children); every moment of time spent in a plane… it is savored and adored. Especially by Kyle and Owen. This one, by the way, was their 20th trip-involving-air-travel. They are expert travelers. And yet we are asked multiple times, every time: “Ah! They’re sooo excited! This must be their first flight?!” Nope, not at all. But you’d never know it by the looks on their faces, their delight in meeting the pilots in the cockpit, their narration of the take-off and the “roaring down the runway!” and the “we’re up in the air!!!” Our rambunctious, spirited, bouncing-off-the-walls boys are downright delightful on a flight. Sitting nicely in their seats, doing their traveling thing. Everyone around us is always amazed (they tell us so). And Little Miss Meera is following right along in her brothers’ footsteps— with the same sense of travel style that her big bro’s embody so well.

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And then… we’re there! And it is always even better than we imagined it would be. (I’m not lying.) And that is saying a lot, especially for this particular trip—Walt Disney World for the first time with your own kids. It is a dream trip. It is a once-in-a-lifetime. It is something that, I for one, believe is as magical as the Disney people claim it to be. It really is, truly, something special. And so it was that we arrived in Florida, and – icing on the sweetest cake!!! – met up with MorMor and MorFar in the Orlando airport!!! Surely there were not three kids in Orlando more excited than the J-M kids were that day. (And again, that is saying a whole heck of a lot, since on any given day you can find a lot of very excited kids in Orlando!) We found our rental car, stopped on the road for lunch, and then high-tailed it to our resort. This is not a paid (or even unpaid) advertisement in any way (believe me!), but I gotta tell you, the Hilton Parc Soleil was nice. Really nice! And in no time we were settled right in by the pool drinking coffee (adults) and eating ice cream sandwiches (kids) and pretty much loving life. And then, without further ado, came the first morning… bright and early and ready for whatever the day was going to hold (and oh! did it ever hold some good!)… with tickets in hand… it was time to head to The Magic Kingdom.

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Every minute is amazing. And we weren’t inside the gate even five minutes when I snapped this picture (below). Three classic mouse ear hats were bought within the first three minutes (one of the only things they knew about Disney was “kids wear Mickey and Minnie ears there!”) Look at their faces, looking around, in total wonder and amazement. And now imagine that wonder and amazement for the entire next twelve hours of the day. It was a marathon of fun. With splendor at every turn.

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It was a lot to take in, but take it in we did. We knew the boys would love it, but we had worried about our baby girl. We had thought that we were mainly going for the six-year-olds, and we wondered how we’d manage the two-year-old in tow. But the biggest surprise of the trip was just how much Meera loved it too. She couldn’t ride all the big rides with her brothers (who, by the way, rode every single one… as did their grandparents!!!), but there was so much she could do. And do it she did. She was not “in tow,” she was right there in the center of the pack. She loved it just as much as her brothers. Just in different ways. And, she just required a bit more of her comfort zone (bottles of milk, being held by mama) to be in place from time to time.  Here’s Meera while we waited for the rest of our gang to get off of Big Thunder Mountain!

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A highlight: Meeting Princess Tiana. Otherwise known as, “The Real Princess and the Frog,” by Meera Grace. It was, undoubtedly, the high of the trip for me— and that came as completely unexpected (because I am not, at all, nor have I ever been, a princess person). But there was something incredibly cliché-cute and overwhelmingly endearing about seeing my girl and her brothers meet that princess. She’s the only princess they knew about (the only Disney princess movie they’ve seen or book they’ve read), and it was magical for them. I could write a whole blog post about this (the whiteness of Disney; the first black princess, how all three of my kids respond to her, etc., etc., etc.), but I won’t. Suffice it to say: it was great. Like, really, really, really great.

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Especially when we asked her to sign Meera’s Minnie-ears. And she, the princess, got tears in her eyes and told us that it was the first time she’d ever been asked to sign one (and –for a bunch of reasons—I believe her). So, with a big black Sharpie, sign it she did.

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And she told me to “hold on to it” because it was “a first” and “surely now a collector’s item.” And then she and Prince Naveen chatted it up with my three bambinos for a good long while (by the magic of all magic we somehow ended up being her last visit of the morning, so she hung out with us for a big chunk of time, making us all feel like a million bucks). “What’s your favorite food?” she asked Owen. “Tortellini,” he said. “What’s your favorite food?” she then asked Kyle. “Ravioli,” he said. “What’s your favorite food?” she then asked Meera. And with dreamy eyes, looking up at ‘The Real Princess and the Frog, “PINK!” she said. And we all laughed. And then Princess Tiana picked up Meera and held her on her hip and snuggled her up. Oh, and then, there was the precious Disney moment for this mommy… I don’t want to brag or anything… and I’m aware of how ridiculous this whole thing sounds… but for this scrapbook’s sake I need to document this…  Then Princess Tiana asked if she could hug me. I found this request odd, and quite awkward, but not knowing what else to do, I reached out to her and we hugged. And then, she whispered in my ear, “You have the sweetest children! I see so many! But yours are my favorite ever! Really! They are the sweetest children!!!” Maybe she has been trained to say that to every mother? But, throwing all skepticism aside, for that one split second, I really did feel like the Best Mom Ever. It was very short-lived, of course, but the trip was worth it just for that moment. I could have gone home then, and been happy.

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But we did not go home then. Instead, there was lunch! In Frontierland! There was Splash Mountain and Space Mountain and Pirates of the Caribbean. There was Minnie’s House and Mickey’s House. And there was everything else around every corner in between. And then there was the afternoon parade!!!!!! The best parade on earth, I swear!

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There was a purple Mickey balloon for Owen, a Minnie Mouse balloon for Meera, and a Princesses balloon for Kyle (who, on this trip, took on an intense interest in the Disney princesses… those super-white goddesses of which we had shielded and protected him for the past six years of his life… but the dam was broken wide open and he quickly became fully enthralled with the princesses, which seem to have flooded his whole intellect and imagination).

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And finally the littlest one of us fell asleep. Who was more relieved for her to finally get a bit of rest? Meera or her mother? She, who never falls asleep outside her bed, slept hard for over an hour, late in that afternoon, including through the entire Jungle Cruise ride.

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And there was lots of hand holding and memory making and multi-generational family bonding. You can say whatever you want to say about Disney (the marketing, the commercialism, the materialism, and on and on), but you cannot knock it for that. For that you can only look at Disney in awe. I love this picture (below) because if you look closely you can see Owen studying MorFar’s walk, and mimicking it as best he can. He is still walking just like his MorFar, and we’ve been home now for a few days.

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The day turned to night and there was The Electrical Parade. The second-best parade on earth, I swear!

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And then the lit-up castle, and Tinkerbell flying through the air, and the famous fireworks. I’m glad we have the pictures, because it is almost too much to believe, even though I know we were there.

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And finally, then, there was this:

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And that was our day at The Magic Kingdom.

Disney Trip, Part 2 of 3

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For our second full day, we left the camera at the hotel (on purpose!), and we headed off to Typhoon Lagoon. We’re a tropical-water-sand-loving family. We would be happy to go to Orlando just for the day at Typhoon Lagoon. Seriously. That’s how much we love it. And when I say “we” I mean all seven that were in our party. Pushing the whole thing even more over-the-top-awesome for Kyle, he somehow banged his mouth on the edge of the car door getting out at the parking lot of Typhoon Lagoon, dramatically knocking a lose tooth out, and therefore managing to “lose a tooth at Disney World!!!” (You should have seen all the Disney loot that the Tooth Fairy left that night after a note was written on hotel letterhead wherein Kyle asked the Tooth Fairy to “please leave something for everyone, not just for me”). To mark the occasion of the “Disney Lost Tooth!” MorFar took this picture with his phone camera:

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We proceeded to enjoy that Disney water park to the max. I mean, to the max. I was so proud of my boys – riding every single water slide, tube ride, and river raft. I was so proud of my parents – right there beside them doing it all… and I do mean it all. I was so proud of my girl, the sun-and-sand-and-water-loving girl we are raising her to be, floating down the lazy river, and swimming with sting rays (no kidding). I was so proud of my man, the best-mega-wave-riding-body-surfing-crazy-as-his-boys-Papi possibly possible. What else can I say? We closed the place. And couldn’t have been happier. Here is the only other documentation of that awesome, amazing-day-had-by-all day (taken by me, with my iPhone, which I only pulled out of the bag once just because I couldn’t resist trying to grab this shot):

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And the next day we were up and at ‘em at the crack of dawn, so that we could be one of the first on the safari at Animal Kingdom (they say that the earlier you get on the safari, the more animals you see). Here’s the view of the back seat of the mini van that morning:

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And here is Meera in the mini van, at 8:30 a.m., already ready for a nap. But nap she did not. Instead, she rallied. Rallied big time for her happiest Disney day yet.

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The safari was the highlight of all of Disney for Kyle (and that is saying a lot, given his newfound infatuation with princesses, and his intense thrill-seeking mad-love of all-things-rollercoaster).

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You can’t really blame him. I mean, who wouldn’t be overcome with awe, joy, and wonder at seeing things like this???

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It. Is. Amazing. A-M-A-Z-I-N-G.

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And to experience it all with your own kids… and your own parents… and to have it all flow the way you had imagined… it was A-M-A-Z-I-N-G.

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And because we had three generations together, and a ratio of four completely-able adults to three completely-happy kids, we were able to split up from time to time. So, for a good chunk of the morning, MorMor and MorFar did toddler-speed Animal Kingdom with Meera, and Mommy and Papi did six-year-old-(going on twelve-year-old)-speed Animal Kingdom with Kyle and Owen.

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We all agreed that Animal Kingdom was our favorite park (none of us had been there before). We just absolutely loved it. And that wasn’t just because of our bambinos’ ridiculously-huge-obsession with The Lion King either. (Anyone who’s been reading this blog for any time knows about that!) Although, the Animal Kingdom’s show, “Legend of the Lion King,” alone, would have been worth the trip. (seriously!). Here are the three with Simba after the show:

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Oh, and the parade that day wasn’t bad either (understatement of the year).

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And here is my favorite shot of the entire trip (below). At the Animal Kingdom parade. Meera, on my father’s shoulders, my mother’s hand placed firmly on Meera’s back, Braydon looking on. This completely captures the essence of our trip.

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I would be remiss if I weren’t to make a special note about Everest, the ride. This was the boys’ favorite ride in all of our time at Disney (and man, oh man!, did they ride a lot of rides!). They – Owen especially – fell in love with every single aspect of it. And we promised them we’d go back so they could ride it again as our last ride of the trip. We made it there in enough time before the park closing that they got to ride Everest a total of five times before it was closed down for the night and we were politely ushered out.

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Here is Kyle, exiting Everest, jumping up and down doing a crazy jig like a wild man, after one of their handful of Everest rides.

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And then we left Walt Disney World, smiling, with three fabulous fun-filled days behind us. Days of – amongst everything else already noted – treats!

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Treats including (and I just had to get this in here) this crazy dessert for three – a “crème brulee banana split” – which was devoured in about three minutes flat by these three (note: MorMor did not eat one bite).

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And days of – amongst everything else already noted – a very nice resort!

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A resort including (and I just had to get this in here too) this crazy bathtub in our suite… a tub which – look closely – filled from the ceiling!!!

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And… most importantly… our trip was comprised of days which were filled with – amongst everything else already noted – love. love love love love love love love. I know it sounds cheesy, but I’m sorry, it is true. We only live once. We have to unabashedly seize the moment. A trip, for us, is a love story. A love story unfolding. A love story with many parts. A love story to be written down, captured in photos, and told over and over again. No two ways about it: these trips are part of our glue. Because in and around it all, there is this:

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Disney Trip, Part 3 of 3

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We had later-in-the-day flights back to Boston (for MorMor and MorFar) and Newark (for the J-Ms), and so we got to spend a last day together before we left Orlando. We slept in, swam in the pool, packed up, checked out, and explored Downtown Disney. There were mementos purchased (a toy Tinkerbell phone! [Meera];  a set of princess books! [Kyle]; a Disney World airplane! [Owen]). And then we were off. Headed back to reality. Far, far away from The Magic Kingdom. But, our trip is an adventure from the very beginning (even before) to the very end (even after). The plane is a thrill – even going home (here’s Meera – photo below –on the flight home… Meera, who is becoming quite the little traveler in her own right). 

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And here are the three, at the beloved baggage claim (never a dull moment! they love the baggage claim!). Like I said, it is all adored, from beginning to end.

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And here they are the next morning, still in their pajamas, playing it all out (like they always do after each and every trip). They were back at Disney. They were riding a rollercoaster (this one “made specially for babies too!!!”). They were enriched (in so many ways) by another fantastic trip.

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And so it goes that all the hassle and strategizing and plodding and planning that (realistically) does go into these things… is all worth it. And yes, there was a mountain of laundry to be done the size of Big Thunder Mountain. And yes, it is a lot to travel with little ones. And yes, we, at times, feel that we need a vacation after the vacation. Yes, of course. It is all true. But…

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…but… we come home glued… we come home rejuvenated… we come home inspired… we come home planning the next trip. And so, while there will be others in between… we have already set a family goal firmly and solidly in place: We will, if at all humanly possible, go back to Walt Disney World in two years.

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And so, we have that to look forward to. And we have Disney 2010 to remember. And, it comes full circle. And, tonight, as usual, our playroom table looks like this:

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Travel: a love story.

Quick Disney Goodness Tip

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For anyone who will be going to Disney any time soon – now you can get discounted tickets and do a good thing at the same time.

The Florida Children’s Hospital has a wonderful arrangement with Disney World in which you can make a donation and receive discounted tickets.  Not only do you get to save a little money but you get to contribute to a good organization as well.

Here’s the link for donating and for tickets.