8 days past due date. Still no baby.
I’ve crossed some sort of threshold and now I’m pretty miserable.

Time keeps on tickin’ tickin’ tickin’ into the future…

Here I am just a few minutes ago, one week overdue. Hopefully this is the last in the baby bump series.

Not much left to do but wait. In mid-February, after getting back from our trip to Florida, we realized that with only 3 months left to go we really should start getting ready for baby. Before then we’d done nothing. Literally nothing. So we made the TO-DO BEFORE MAY 15 list. Which morphed into the TO-DO BEFORE MAY 15 lists. Four of them, to be precise. When I look at what we’ve accomplished in the past 3 months — on top of holding down the fort, holding down the careers, holding down the rambunctious twinados, and holding down Baby Sister… well, honestly, it amazes even me. The crossed off items range from “Set up maternity/paternity leaves” to “Buy new car (that can hold 3 kids)” to “Get crib from attic” to “Plan K & O’s 4th BDay Party” to “Buy diapers.” There are maybe 4-5 things that haven’t been crossed off, but the rest is done.

On a lighter note: Strawberry season is upon us here in Pennsylvania. The strawberries are ripe and ready at all of our local farms. We’ve been eating them by the quart for the past 5 days. It makes me really happy to think that our girl will be born at the height of strawberry season!

The preggo one here… just weighing in. Couldn’t help but comment on Braydon’s post from earlier today (see post below this one)…

• #4 sounds really good to me right now. I could really really really go for some good chicken parm. But the drive to Brooklyn isn’t worth it to me.
• No offense to all of you who have gone this route but… as far as I’m concerned… #5 is absolutely positively out of the question. I’m way sore and way achy with lots of pressure ‘down there.’ No other comment on that. Just not going to happen. No matter what. No way Jose. Not that desperate. Not ‘gonna happen. Period.
• And re: #13 — again, no offense to all of you who swear by it.. but… um, no. I’m having a hard enough time already with the whole concept of machine operated pumping. Yes, we have a breast pump. Yes, I plan on using it. P.B. (post birth). Braydon’s read the instruction manual cover to cover. If all goes as planned I’m gonna do it – for the sake of B, K, O, and Baby Sister (I/we dearly want Papi and Big Brothers to be able to feed her)… but pumping is not happening until she’s here to (hopefully) motivate me to plug in and hook up. Period.
• My favorite question I get all the time: “Have you tried walking?” ~~ Uh, yeah. I have wild high octane just-turned-4 year old twin boys… I haven’t ever stopped walking/running/jumping/pulling/grabbing/scurrying/bending/leaning/climbing/chasing!?!!!

My goal all along has been to go as natural as possible. I’m still clinging to that goal. I’m holding out as long as possible to use induction only as a last resort. Luckily I’ve got my doctors and my husband on my side with that. I am still hopeful that Baby Sister will come when she’s ready — in her own sweet time. And as the matriarch of this testosterone filled house… I ‘gotta admit: There’s a part of me that’s kinda enjoying watching my three guys go nutso having to wait for this girl (who clearly has a mind of her own)! Get used to it my fellas — I have a feeling she’s ‘gonna have all three of you wrapped around her pretty little finger (and waiting for/on her) for many years to come!!!!

Now that Heather is overdue by 6 days, we’ve been hearing lots of great comments and suggestions around why the baby is late, the state of the baby, what other people’s experiences have been and suggestions on how to bring on labor faster. A few are below. Would love to hear any others too!

1. She’s very comfortable in there
2. She’s going to be well baked
3. The full moon induces labor
4. If you eat chicken Parmesan from a specific restaurant in Brooklyn it induces labor within 30 minutes [that seems a bit risky to me]
5. Sex will induce labor
6. Hiking will induce labor
7. Turns out that lots and lots of people were “late”. [Which makes me wonder, if so many people are late, does that mean that really other people are early?]
8. Don’t listen to the doctors
9. Listen to the doctors
10. Take a hot shower, or get into a bath.
11. Girls are always late
12. Girls are always early
13. Using the breast pump will start labor / stimulate the nipples
14. Jump on a trampoline
15. Ride on a bumpy road
16. Drink castor oil [yuck!]
17. Drink raspberry leaf tea
18. Drink rose hips tea
19. You’re going to have to be induced
20. You won’t have to be induced

The doctor said it’s a complex interplay of hormones between the mother, the placenta and the baby. They all have to work together to start labor. Needless to say, while informative, that does nothing to help with getting the ball rolling.

The full moon has come and gone. Still no baby.

Nothin’!
Nothin’! Nothin’! Nothin’!

Went to my 41 week OB appointment yesterday afternoon — 90% effaced (direct quote from the doctor: “Your cervix is as thin as paper”), 0 dilated.

Tonight there will be a full moon — my parents swear that this will be the night. We shall see if Baby Sister agrees…
Here’s hoping!!!

Every night we say prayers and we all repeat it together.  We’ve recently started adding a little personal prayer where each person talks to God followed by Amen.  Heather starts, then me, then Kyle and last is Owen.  In our little 1-time-is-a-ritual family, that’s how we do it now – every night.  For this little personal prayer at the end all kinds of things come out:  “Thank you for school, I love it”, “I love my Mommy and Papi“, “Thank you Dear God, it was a beautiful day.”

Tonight, after Owen rambled and said his prayer, he also said the following, completely unprompted. In fact, we’ve never used this phrase with him and are pretty sure no body else around here has either.

“…and please have the baby come out, because it’s hurting in my heart. Amen”

We’ve been working on pumping skills (when swinging) lately. For as physically agile and ridiculously adept as Kyle and Owen are, their swinging-pumping skills have always been surprisingly lackluster. Given that they — for example — walked at 10 months, could hit golf balls very hard and very far at 14 months (hard and far enough that one of Kyle’s hits from the front yard broke a window in our house), were shooting hoops to a full height basket at 18 months, were riding Razor scooters (and doing tricks on them) at 24 months, were diving swan dives off the ledge of the pool (and swimming underwater the width of the pool) at 2 years 2 months, were snorkeling in the open Caribbean when they were barely 3, and are now hitting baseballs into the neighbors’ yards at barely 4… (… you get the drift…)… you’d think that they could pump on a swing. But no. So lately we’ve been really trying to get them to grasp the whole pumping concept: in and out, in and out, in and out. Really, I think they just really like being pushed and have no motivation to learn to pump. But with a lot of coaching and a lot of coaxing, they are starting to get better at it. This weekend we saw their swinging skillz greatly improve. And I see this as a metaphor for the weekend for all of us: in and out, in and out, in and out.

Our emotions are like four pendulums, our tempers are swinging, our patience is swaying, etc. Again, you get the drift — lots of fussing, screaming, tantruming, dropping-onto-the-floor-in-a-weeping-heap (I’m speaking both literally and figuratively for all four of us here!). But also lots of moments of sweet contentment, sheer happiness, empathy, and pulling together too. Kyle kisses my belly hundreds of times a day just at random, and tells me “Mommy, I love that baby inside there.” Owen talks gently to the baby regularly trying to convince her to “get out of there.” In hopes to find inspiration for tolerance, Braydon is back to re-reading our favorite parenting book of all time (the perfect owners manual for our particular twinados; OMG are our boys ever classic textbook SSpirited with a double capital ‘S’) — Raising Your Spirited Child (click here). And I’m just basically using every single bit of self-control I have in me to try to remain calm amidst the storm. K & O are trying to be good for their frazzled parents (which is a lot for them, all things considered). And Braydon and I are trying to keep up with our wild high-energy pushing-pushing-pushing boys (which is a lot for us, all things considered). I feel like we’re all in and out, in and out, in and out. And not usually swinging in coordination with one another. But we’re dealing. And trying to pass the time. What else are we supposed to do?

The truth is, this is nothing compared to the waiting that we went through (all four of us) during our adoption. Nothing, absolutely nothing, compares to that. This just pales in comparison. Pales. I think about that constantly. I can’t really speak for what K & O must have gone through (I hate to even let myself think about what those first eight months of life were like for them). So I’ll only speak for myself here. But I can confidently say: I’d take the in-and-out, in-and-out, in-and-out emotional rollercoaster of physical discomfort, aches and pains, feeling like a beached whale, hard-to-sleep, everyone-on-the-edge-of-their-seat, trying-to-pass-time, 4-days-passed-the-due-date, weirdness of this melodrama over the in-and-out, in-and-out, in-and-out emotional rollercoaster of a literal ticking-clock, life-or-death, tiny-babies-barely-surviving-in-a-Haitian-orphanage, no-end-in-sight, sleepless nights melodrama of our Haitian adoption process any day of the week. Seriously. I’m sorry if that offends anyone out there who just doesn’t get it. But it is the honest to God truth. After having gone through what we went through (and knowing the stories of so many others who have gone through much worse), I have a hard time complaining about this. It is all relative. So, at the end of the day (or the end of a very loooong past-due-date weekend, as the case may be), and at the end of this pregnancy (hopefully the end!!!!!!!!!!!) I really can’t bear to complain. It just feels foolish to me — the idea of complaining about something so relatively easy. Yes, being 9 months + 4 days pregnant kind of sucks. Yes, I’m ready to be done with this. Yes, I kind of want to spend the entire day napping. Yes, I kind of wish someone would devote themselves to catering to my every whim for the remainder of this baby-countdown. But it really isn’t that bad. In comparison… it really, really isn’t. And so we just keep swinging.

Here are some random (very random!) shots from the weekend. Our good camera is packed for the hospital, so we just have our old camera out — and our photo taking has been sporadic, at best.

In other news — interestingly, June was back with us pretty much full-time this weekend. (For those of you who don’t know about K & O’s imaginary friend click here for one of many posts where we have written about her.) Here are some fun facts that I’ve learned about June these past couple of days:

• June’s bike is black
• June’s raincoat is gray
• June’s rainboots are blue and green
• When June “has a pee pee accident in the night” (i.e., wets her bed) she “cleans herself up all by herself”
• When June goes out to lunch with us she always orders macaroni and cheese, if at all possible
• When June goes out to lunch with us at California Tortilla (where mac ‘n cheese is not possible) she chooses an Oatmeal Raisin cookie over a brownie for dessert after she finishes her burrito (just like K & O)
• June has her own bedroom — it is between Kyle and Owen’s bedrooms
• June has a peace crane hanging from the ceiling in her bedroom — just like K & O do
• June is not good at pumping
• June is not K & O’s sister
• June is not going to be allowed to hold Baby Sister (she’ll have her own baby)
• June’s age is variable depending on what we (or she) is doing at any given moment — sometimes she’s 4, sometimes 10, sometimes (often) she’s 35 or 36. And every once in a while, June is “tweety” years old (see below)
• June does not know how to snap, but she is trying to learn (see below)

And here’s some more recent random info from our neck of the woods — The Latest Re: K & O Twinspeak (click here for another post on this topic)

• “Tweety” (not to be mistaken for the word ‘twenty’ — how dare you!!!!!) is a number. This number is 100% made up by K & O and does not resemble any other number known to humankind, and yet is used in their language many times every day. From what I can gather, it means ‘many’ or ‘a lot’ or ‘a high number’ or ‘infinite.’ But, importantly, it is also fluid (i.e., it is not a fixed number and can fluctuate depending on the circumstance). It is not interchanged with any other word and does not replace any real number. Examples –there are tweety caterpillars swarming around in the nest in the tree in the front yard; the ocean has tweety fish in it; a car driving too fast is driving tweety [mph] on the road; David Ortiz and Manny Ramirez (red sox) can hit the baseball tweety far; Tiger Woods can hit the golfball tweety; a very old man might be tweety years old; sometimes June is tweety years old (when she gets to do something that K & O are not allowed to do, such as cook by herself on the hot stove); K & O are so hungry that they want to eat tweety cheese; Papi is so funny that he is tweety funny; and my favorite… K & O “love Mommy tweety times around.”
• “Snap!” is a remark. Owen can snap his fingers to make a loud snap sound. Kyle cannot. Snapping has become a big thing around here. The word “snap” is now part of K & O’s twinspeak. To say “snap!” while motioning a snap motion with their fingers in someone’s face (sound or not), indicates something along the lines of either ‘awesome! you’re totally cool! hip hip hooray!’ or ‘bummer! you’re a total drag! boo to you!’ Examples — I say, “I have an idea! Let’s go play outside!” and I get two quick loud punctuated verbal “SNAP!”‘s along with both boys jumping up and doing the snapping hand motion fast and furious in my face as they run toward the door; I say, “No, we’re going to eat dinner soon, you cannot have any cheese!” and I get two quick loud punctuated verbal “SNAP!”‘s along with both boys jumping up and doing the snapping hand motion fast and furious in my face as they give me the hairy eyeball and saunter off to the playroom; Kyle does something rude to Owen and he gets the “SNAP!” in response; Owen suggests some fun pretend game to Kyle and he gets the “SNAP!” in response; sometimes they’ll be chattering together in the backseat of the car and suddenly they’ll both do the “SNAP!” at the same time (in the midst of talking about something super cool or something that they think is a super downer).

O.k., that’s it for today. Blogging can now officially be counted as one of my “things to do to pass time waiting for baby”!!! We know that many of you are checking in here for updates — 697 of you yesterday, to be exact. We feel very checked-in-after, and I’ve gotta say– it feels good! Thank you! Don’t fret — we’ll keep you updated! 😉

Nada!
We are in a holding pattern just trying to pass the time.
Still no baby!!!!

Heather is really, really ready. The baby is clearly not.

No baby.

Day After Due Date: Still no baby. It was pouring rain all day today. We had a great day!