These two are about to turn 10. Double digits. Doubled.
Each year I get really emotional in the days leading up to their birthday. Each year I think it will wear off as they get older and the distance between their birth and present-day grows further. It seems that the profound grief and the profound joy should wear off somehow. But no. Not at all. It is not happening that way… Instead, it seems, I feel it even more deeply as the complexity of who they are reveals itself more and more clearly by the year.
These two. They made me a mother. But I owe it all to their mother. She did right by them. She did right by me. And the honor and the privilege is all mine.
I feel the gravity of it more profoundly as each year I watch these boys grow into the most amazing people imaginable. Beyond imaginable actually. It is all beyond imaginable.
So moved by your words Heather and sentiments — you are a wonderful Mother!
While I don’t believe children need to feel “lucky” or grateful for having loving parents”, and to that end adoptive children don’t need to be made to feel “lucky” — from my experience I know what a blessing it is to have ‘tuned in’ parents – parents who go the extra miles to educate themselves and are mindful of all the complexities of adoption and shows this daily in their upbringing of their children. I can see you and Braydon share very similiar foundational philosophies and approaches and it such a joy to have you as “blog friends”, to have you selflessly sharing a slice of your life with us all. Thank you! I’ve been thinking of K & O all month — and today I thought of them and you all so much….so excited to wish them Happy 10th Birthday!!
– Kate