Lovely combined with active, fun, nutty and the other normal modifiers of our life.
Saturday was the first Lehigh home football game of the season. Kyle has been waiting a whole year for this. He couldn’t care less about the actual football game. It is all about the marching band. We had a low-key morning including the boys making Yogurt Parfaits — their new favorite thing to “cook” (they call anything involving food production in the kitchen “cooking”). We layer yogurt, granola, and fresh fruit (Saturday we did peaches, strawberries, blueberries). I can’t figure out what the boys like more: making them, or eating them. Owen insisted that I “take a picture!” of their finished products (they made one for each of us). Here are the proud cooks with their four yogurt parfaits:
The marching band did not disappoint. Of course we got there early so we could follow them around the tailgating parking lots for a solid 45 minutes before kick-off. Kyle was a madman. His reaction to live music (especially the marching band) is strange, to say the least. He is obsessive about it. Truly. He doesn’t appear to enjoy it, he appears to be fully immersed in it in some bizarre in-his-own-world-way. He won’t react to anyone/anything. He needs to stand perfectly still. He can’t tolerate it if we do anything that might distract him from his prime-viewing-listening in any way. He’s a strange little fella. He takes after his father. If you look closely at the picture below you’ll see a highlight for Kyle: one of the trombone players giving him a ‘thumbs up’… in case you haven’t picked up on it, Kyle’s obsessed with trombones. Obsessed. They are by far his favorite instrument and he talk incessantly about them daily. The marching band and trombones only fuel the fire.
These photos are from after school Friday afternoon. We were taking a break from the pool for cookies and milk. At the end of the day Alex came to babysit so that Braydon and I could go to “Parent’s Night” at K & O’s new school. Here’s what we know at the end of K & O’s first week at the River Valley Waldorf School:
Yesterday afternoon, playing at home after their first day of school, K & O were clearly just so happy to be just the two of them again. After 3.5 months of no daycare and twin-brother-togetherness, their morning at school seemed to be just enough of a break from the duo-intensity that they were relishing the afternoon of playing alone together. They wanted me to be right there, but not necessarily involved in what they were doing at any given moment. They were just loving each other’s company, playing, and carrying on like best buds the whole afternoon. I spent most of the time savoring the moment and trying hard to let what I was overhearing sink in deep so I would be able to remember it. The nice-ness of it all was over-the-top but you have to imagine that they were completely sincere in every word. Tone of total, utter, utmost respect, adoration, and brotherly love. This conversation took place when they were playing in the driveway with a broom they found in the garage~~~
Owen: Excuse me, Kyle, excuse me. Can I please play with that broom now?
Kyle: Um. No thank you Owen. But, thank you for asking!! [keeps playing]Owen: Excuse me, Kyle. Can I please play that broom?? Very very very please?
Kyle: Um. O.k. Owen. Your turn Owen!
Owen: Oh! Thank you Kyle!
Kyle: You’re welcome Owen!
Owen: How to do it Kyle? How to do it?
Kyle: I will show you Owen. [demonstrates sweeping]Owen: Oh, o.k.! Let me try. [he does it]Kyle: There you go! You got it! YOU GOT IT!!! YAY OWEN!
Owen: Thank you Kyle! Thank you very much!
Yesterday afternoon I was with the boys at the pool. We had gone into the house to get snacks, and were heading back out. As we walked through the door onto the deck this is what I heard~~~
Kyle: Hi bugs!
Owen: Hi bugs! Hi!
Kyle: Owen, you like bugs?
Owen: No Kyle. I don’t like bugs. We don’t like bugs.
Kyle: No, we don’t like bugs!
Owen: But we are still nice to them.
Kyle: Bugs, we don’t like you.
Owen: Hi bugs! We don’t love you bugs!
Kyle: WE DON’T LOVE YOU BUGS!
Owen: Hi bugs! We don’t love you bugs!
Kyle: Hi bugs! We don’t love you bugs!
Owen: Hi bugs! We’re not happy to see you bugs!
Kyle: We don’t love you bugs!
~~~by that point we were back at the pool and they embarked on their snacks.
This morning, on the drive to school. Braydon and I listening from the front seat~~~
Kyle: Owen, I have a surprise for you!
Owen: You do Kyle?!
Kyle: Yes! It is a present! Don’t look! Close your eyes! I will give it to you!
[Owen pretends to close his eyes]Kyle: Here you go Owen! Here’s the present! Here it is!!! [pretending to give him something — this is totally make-believe and he’s ‘handing’ Owen something in thin air]Owen: Thank you Kyle!!!!! [pretending to take ‘it’ into his own hands]Kyle: You know what it is Owen?! It is a trombone!
Owen: Yes! It is a trombone!
Kyle: You like it Owen? You love it?
Owen: Yes! I like it Kyle! I like it! I like it! I like it!
Kyle: It is a very big huge trombone for you Owen!
Owen: It is a very very BIG trombone! You see my BIG HUGE trombone?!
Kyle: And it is super loud! You can do loud trombone music. And it is a tuba!!!!
Owen: Yes! It is a tuba! A trombone and a tuba!!!!
Kyle: I have to go to work to get my trombone. My trombone is at my work.
Owen: Me too Kyle! We have to go to our works to get our trombones.
Kyle: Our trombones are at ours office.
Owen: Yes!
Kyle: My trombone is at my office. And I will go to Owen’s office to see Owen’s trombone!
Owen: Yes Kyle! We will both go to our works and we will drive there.
Kyle: You want to drive Owen? You? Or me?
Owen: I will drive it and you will come with me. O.k. Kyle?!
Kyle: OKAY OWEN!!!!
We spent Labor Day Weekend camping at Assateague Island, Maryland. We had never been there before. Oh my gosh. It was unbelievably spectacular. Assateague Island is a part of the National Seashore click here (or here). Braydon and I both agreed, we’ve never experienced anything like it. Ever. It is absolutely gorgeous. And almost completely unspoiled. Parts of it are entirely undeveloped. The ocean-side of the island is incredible (check out our photos!!!), and the bay-side of the island is incredible (check out our photos!!!), and the fact that there are wild “ponies” (they looked like full blown horses to me) running wild all over the place (check out our photos!!!) just really makes the whole place sorta unbelievable. We’re fortunate enough to have seen many gorgeous ocean-front-beautiful-places: the caribbean, california, south carolina, the french riviera, the new england coast, etc. But this was right up there as one of the most beautiful places we’ve ever seen. And the tenting was super-fun for all four of us too. As you can imagine, K & O loved the whole thing (although we were pretty sure that Kyle would have preferred the creature comforts of being able to go ‘home’ to a hotel at night instead of a sandy buggy tent! LOL!!!). Other things both K & O would happily do without = port-a-potties (they hate them; who doesn’t?!); cold-water-outdoor-showers (Braydon and I loved them but the boys did not); National Park Ranger who pulled Papi over on Sunday afternoon and gave him a $50 Federal Citation Fine for letting the boys ride “freely in the vehicle” and not enforcing the child seat-belt laws (Braydon tried to explain to the boys that the Ranger was, indeed, in the right but the boys were not having it and just repeated over and over and over: “That police man was not good. That was not nice. He needs to GO TO HIS ROOM!!!!!!!”). Here were some of the highlights of this glorious vaca adventure:
P.S. As always, you can click on any photo to see it larger~~~
Now that we’re liberated from the Open Book Challenge we can resume our normal blogging. There are two big things that have happened in the past several days. One is that we went on a vaca (a little mini vacation). I’ll post about that later. The second thing is that our cat Ashley had to be put to sleep. We have had two cats for the past 13 years — twin kitties. Our “first twins” as we fondly have referred to them. We named them after the rivers in Charleston, SC (where we got them from a cat shelter in January 1995 when they were baby kittens)… we named them Ashley and Cooper (the Ashley River and the Cooper River flow on either side of the peninsula that is Charleston). We have loved these cats. Pre-K&O these cats were our babies. They’ve lived in 5 different apartments/houses with us. But Ashley has been deteriorating and her quality of life was really going down hill this summer. On Thursday night we had to make the decision to put her to sleep. It was an easy decision to make because it was clear to us that it was time to let her go. She had 13 great years. Now Cooper is an “only cat.” We are sad. We have tried to explain this to Kyle and Owen — we’ve been up front. We told them on Friday morning that “While they were sleeping, Ashley died.” They seemed to understand. But they didn’t seem to really be too concerned about it. We feel o.k. with that. Braydon and I, however, are heart-broken! But this is life. And life goes on. These photos were taken just a couple nights before Ashley died. We were very concerned about her and took these photos ‘just in case’… and I’m so glad we took them. I’m posting this on the blog because someday if K & O are reading this I want them to know that they had a cat Ashley and she died when they were three. For some reason this feels important to remember right now. And since this blog is partly a ‘scrap book’ kind of thing for K & O I wanted to post about it here.
It. Is. Done.!!!!!!! Thank the heavens. That was intense. We appreciate all of your questions folks, but suffice it to say: We’ll never do that again!!! Next time, the questions will be “yes or no” questions only!!! But… we did enjoy it. And now we’re celebrating that it is over. Wooo Hooooo!!!!!
Here are the final answers to the questions!!!!!
happy mom said… I would like a list of your favorite books about adoption and/or raising black children. More of a request I suppose.
Dear Happy Mom: I’ve been meaning to do this for a long time because several people have actually emailed me over the past few months asking me to do exactly this. I don’t have time to do this now… but I PROMISE that soon (sometime in the next couple of weeks) I will do a really good Top Ten List of Books for Black Kids. I also will give some suggestions for good books about adoption/raising black children. O.k.? Sorry to put you off, but I will make it worth the wait, I promise! In the meantime… I highly recommend the blog “A Wrung Sponge” — click here — the blogger is an adoptive mother of two black sons. She is a wonderful writer and avid reader and also a librarian. She often posts re: books that would be great for black kids. I really like her blog and read it often. Check it out!!!
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